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The spirit is unwilling

Every so often, our schools have “Spirit Week.” Students are encouraged to dress within a common guideline each day.  I’m unsure what spirits they’re conjuring, but it hardly seems like school spirit. One day is for wearing school colors, but the other four could more accurately be termed “Dress Up Week.”

Our older two boys were, to put it mildly, never very keen on Spirit Week. Big Brother tried it in kindergarten. After one Spirit Week, the thrill was gone. It was too much like homework.

Buster was never interested. If you’d asked him about Spirit Week, Buster would have replied, “I don’t know what it is; I don’t know when it is; and I don’t care.” Maybe you can see why Buster is a Gen X dad’s delight.

Big Man, the youngest of the three, is more interested in Spirit Week, though not fully indoctrinated into the cult of uniformity. He does not always observe a full Spirit Week, but on occasion he remembers that he’s supposed to wear a tie-dye T-shirt on a given day.

Unfortunately, he remembers this within two minutes of needing to leave for school.

Also unfortunate, his dad ranks Spirit Week low on the list of events worthy of last-minute disruption. His mom, though more sympathetic to the cause, is not prepared for an unexpected deep dive into the closet when she’s holding car keys in her hand.

This leads to Spirit Morning Strife.

Exhibit: Thursday, September 24, 2026.

At school commute -3 minutes, I was informed that it was “Anything but Backpack” day.

When I was a kid, nobody wore a backpack. We carried only what we needed at any given time. I wish it were that way still, but it’s not. Young hermit crabs, carry all their belongings on their backs. I don’t love it, but I’ve accepted it. A backpack is core to the routine.

Except this day. With tardiness looming, our kid announced that he must transport everything in his backpack to school in something that was not his backpack.

Once we get the laptop, gym shoes, and sweatshirts packed, we can move on to the real school supplies.

I told him he had two minutes to find a substitute.

“Daa’ aad!” he whined in the tone that attempts to dump responsibility for his fiascos on my shoulders.

I said he might better just use his backpack, but he was invested in this ill-conceived special occasion.

He tried a picnic cooler, which fit his water bottle and nothing else.

“Use a garbage bag,” I said.

He shuddered and attempted a wicker basket, which was too awkward even for him.

Mom appeared, noted the spilled backpack contents, and raised her voice. After the squall, she used some mom magic to produce, from thin air, a huge food service bag with straps.

Big Man frowned as his parents’ faces told him this was his last option.

The sulking boy loaded school supplies into the bag. He was last seen lumbering behind and tripping over the unwieldy parcel that would make him late for this episode of Spirit Week.

I’m glad I was young at a time when our schools left us responsible for our own morale.

That was now; this is then

In June, 2013, I posted this: Eavesdropping on the class of 2026. It was a conversation between Big Brother and his best friend, two months before they started kindergarten. Last week, Big Brother graduated high school.

In 2013, the class of 2026 was a nebulous concoction of little children. It was little more than an idea about an entity so far away as to be thought of as infinitely distant.

Last week the class of 2026 wrote its name in stone, when Big Brother and his classmates walked across the stage.

The come-to-fruition class of 2026 is an accomplishment, a relief, a new beginning, and a bunch of other good things. It is also a gentle sadness for things lost to the greedy arms of history.

In 2013, it was hard to imagine Big Brother as a high school graduate. It was hard to see him as a middle-schooler. In a different way, it is now difficult to picture him as that little guy who snuggled between mom and dad on the couch. Sure, there are pictures and videos, but we can never hold that soft, little hand again. We can’t carry that peaceful, tiny bundle up to bed. I certainly can’t lift him out of bed anymore; my back and I learned that lesson around the time he became a sleepy teenager.

In that year before Big Brother’s Kindergarten matriculation, Buster was still a toddler, Big Man was not born yet. Mom was at home with her little boys, and the spare tire around Dad’s belly was still the small kind you can’t drive faster than 50mph on. Though I’m a little rounder with time, I had already reached peak baldness back then.

As Big Brother sets his sights on college, Buster is a summer away from high school. Big Man is equally near to junior high. Mom has been back to her career for seven years. Instead of blogging with disciplined regularity, I spend my time signing field trip permission slips.

It will be another four years before Buster graduates from high school, and two additional for Big Man. There will be many hectic, stressful days in those six years. Day to day, it will seem a slow slog, until all the slogs have melted suddenly into a blink.

How did 2030 get here already? Or 2032? I can’t prove that they are here as readily as I can prove 2026, but they are here. They just haven’t revealed themselves yet. 2013 is still here; it just drifted away a little so that it’s a bit fuzzy through the mist.

I can’t reach 2013 anymore. I can’t hold onto the little boy there. But I can still hear his laughter.

Don’t bring a knife to a baguette fight

It was Tuesday when I cut my hand on a piece of bread.

This tragedy requires a bit of backstory.

I bought the bread, a $1.49 grocery store baguette, on Sunday morning.

Big Man, who still refuses to eat middle school cafeteria lunches, asked for roast beef for his sandwiches this week. I don’t like paying roast beef prices, but it’s the start of the school year, and maybe this little luxury will help him let go the utopia of summer and ease back into the drudgery of school.

Next week, when summer is a distant memory, we downgrade to ham.

The sliced roast beef looked exceptionally good, lean and red (a rarity in our town). Maybe I too would like a sandwich for some near future lunch.

The kids are happy eating the preservative-doused sliced bread, but if I’ve got to take out a second mortgage to pay for the meat, my sandwich should be on bread with enough dignity to die young.

I picked out a baguette; little did I know, it didn’t want to die alone.

Bread of character, even third-rate, store brand, character, should be eaten in one day. That didn’t happen.

On Monday, Big Man chose to have his sandwich on a hunk of baguette. I didn’t have a chance to make my sandwich. This was my undoing.

On Tuesday, half the baguette remained. I tried to get the boy take it again. “No,” he said. “That bread’s too hard.” I didn’t see the warning in his wise words.

At lunchtime, I cut off a hunk of the aging bread for my sandwich. The previously cut end was too hard to possibly enjoy. I must cut a bit off that end. Though my knife seemed sharp, it struggled through the crust.

I needed more leverage. Leverage is key with baguettes.

This is why I picked the bread off the plate and held it tight in my left hand as I sawed at the end with my right. Finally, I was cutting through it.

And then calamity struck.

The bit at the end gave way. The long piece I was holding in my left hand crashed into the side of my right hand. That’s when I learned that I had not cut off enough. A still hard, and now sharp, edge of crust dug into the skin of my right hand, leaving a splinter of crumb under the layers of scraped skin.

Don’t mock me for my delicate hands. They’re soft, lovely hands that any man would be proud of.

Ah, but I had the last laugh against the bread that bit me. I bit it back many times, with pleasure, and roast beef. I bit it until it was nothing. (After having put it in the microwave to soften it up; I do learn my lesson sometimes.)

Revenge!

In the garden of time

When we first moved into our house, my wife and I wanted a vegetable garden. A flat piece of lawn behind the garage seemed the best spot.

There are a lot of hungry creatures, with big front teeth, in our neighborhood. We would need a fence before we planted anything.

We had no experience building fences, and too little money to pay somebody to build one. But we had a fresh homeowner’s optimism and a starter set of tools. We wouldn’t be deterred from our dream of fresh peas and string beans.

We bought lath wood, fastening hardware, and a staple gun. We didn’t know that we didn’t know what we were doing, and on the strength of our vast ignorance, we produced a 10’ x 12’ fenced garden.

It was actually kind of cute. The rodents thought so. They admired our rustic enclosure as they borrowed under it. They appreciated its ineffective beauty as they mowed our infant produce to the ground. They wished we would build similar, ornamental fences around additional tasty treats elsewhere in the yard.

It took three years, submerged chicken wire, sunken garden borders, and a fist fight with a ground hog before our garden fence became useful security against the order of Rodentia. Then came our salad days. Our third-rate soil was good for a handful of peas and enough spinach, lettuce, and cucumbers for two medium-sized salads each summer. Carrots and radishes wouldn’t grow in the clay.

We began raising children as well. Each year, the garden was planted later, the weeds were given more authority, and the fence looked less fresh.

Abused and distorted by many winters.

The variety of plants we grew diminished at the inverse rate to the number of children demanding attention. Even the rodents lost interest in our garden in its gradual transition from an Eden of forbidden fruit to an enclosed weed patch.

The years of neglect let the weeds grow tall, until some of them graduated into small trees. The area assumed a sad new role as a corral for outdoor toys the children had outgrown. Each winter brought accelerating decay to our once cute little fence. The ruins of our erstwhile grand vision became a mere hindrance to mow around.

This summer, we made the decision to put our garden to rest. The rotten wood was easy to pull down. The entangled chicken wire offered more resistance. As I dug up the roots of the most highly educated weeds, I realized that this fence had stood for 20 years.

Twenty years is a long time for a homemade, lath wood fence to endure. The fence stood through births, diapers, preschools, field trips, ball games, band concerts, book reports, detentions, award ceremonies, final exams, laughter, and tears.

The fence watched its builders grow rounder, and slower, and more fragile.

It almost seemed a shame to say goodbye to our fence. But time demanded it.

Time neither stops nor reverses for any fence. Every fence must come to terms with that.

Shadows fall on an empty plot.